If you want to find a mate or simply get a date, it starts long before that phone call, email or text message to make plans. Many times, we often focus on what we want and deserve and forget what we have to offer someone of the opposite sex. We are going to do a quick and easy checklist to get you on the road to being ready for a date.

1. This is pretty simple because many of us, especially women, ponder this often: What do you want in a mate? What are your must haves? Things you can bend on? Think about it because it's more important than most of us realize. You are setting up your standards and what you are and are not willing to accept. Now before you get pumped up, go to point 2.

2. Everybody knows the song "Man in the Mirror" by Michael Jackson. When is the last time you REALLY looked in the mirror? Self-evaluation is important to our personal growth and development from time to time. We established what WE want, but what do YOU bring to the table? What are your strengths and weaknesses? What do you have to offer a person? Knowing your self-worth and being realistic is key not only in a relationship but for yourself.

3. Compare the lists. Do we have a match? Are your goals too low? Are you being unrealistic? This may make you realize that you need to work on some things.

By knowing what you want and what your deserve will save you a lot of time and potential heart ache. We are VERY busy these days and our time is precious. Working, grad school, networking and everyday life makes free time to waste limited. But knowing what you are looking for helps avoid a lot of stumbles and helps hone in on the one.

 

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